Season 4, Episode 9
This week, our podcast discusses dating anxiety, especially the mixed signals we receive from our potential mates. The world is changing, turning upside down for us, boomers (f you don’t mind the cliche)! Older men want women to move in with them, and older women prefer to live alone and have men on the side, as needed. Is it really just about sex, or something more?
What motivates us to seek connection with others? This of course is not true for all men and women, but it does become confusing when one is looking to share life and love with a forever partner. Hmm, yes it is perplexing.
Women often have a larger circle of friends than men so they may have more options. Plus consider a woman can move in with her older children. That is why there are mother-in-law housing units attached to homes. Not too many adult children extend these offers to fathers. Perhaps that is because men are thought of as independent and they can date women of all ages. Don’t believe the movies! Most men like women face loneliness. Men, as they age, lose their mothers and wives, and they may miss that the nurturing that women (not all) provide them. This is where I ask again, why is so dating is complicated and stressful? Women make seek security and protection, however their children and female friends often provide that when a male partner is absent. What might be the benefit of a partner aside from sex and security; maybe companionship on life’s final journey?
It’s important to take a risk and step outside your boundaries and seek new adventures, whether they are romantic or just life experiences. We are all aging, yes but it is not over until it is. To me, that means we should all create a bucket list of things we would like to do – among them might be to fall in love, OR NOT.
Actually you may fall in love as you work on your list. Don’t settle with the status quo. That also doesn’t mean if you meet someone really wonderful on the way, that you are settling for the first person you have met. Remember sometimes it just happens! I always consider whether I would be willing to risk losing this incredible person for what might be behind door number 2. It is a risk you might be willing to take, but if the person you are with has a similar bucket list, they might be worth including in your life (and possibly love) adventure. Life is always a risk worth pursuing, When you fear the future, you have already given up on your life. Just saying, it’s something to consider anyway. No one has all the answers, if any.
So what’s your thought on all this confusion and anxiety? Write me and Lux at giddyjaden@gmail.com
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